Wouldn’t It Be Nice

Today little things that usually make me raise an eyebrow began to come to mind and I thought I’d share some of them with your guys.

Wouldn’t it be nice…

if more of us stopped for those “brave” people asking for signatures for starving children, abortions and gay rights. There was a  man with model good looks who stopped me yesterday and regrettably I gave him the brush off. You fine sir are the inspiration for this post:)

if extremely fat people didn’t squeeze into seats. Sorry but when you’re in between two people and weigh 300+, three’s a crowd

if women bought less and donated more

if people didn’t treat animals better than other human beings

if more orphaned and  impoverished children in America were adopted

if Jay Z would stop rapping about drug dealing and hood life when he’s filthy rich

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Yearning To Be Bridezillla?

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I recently read the article “Single Bridezillas” in the February issue of Marie Claire about women planning their weddings far in advance from their actual wedding dates. The catch to this story is that these women are not engaged and many are not even in relationships.

Arguably most women have dreams about their wedding day, hubby, dress, venue and cake. But the women mentioned in this article are on a mission to make these dreams a reality without a vital component: an engagement. They’re hiring wedding planners, purchasing dresses and even buying fake engagement rings.

Delusional was the first word that popped into my head. But on second thought maybe they just want to take their destiny into their own hands and believe their planning will pay off. The bombardment of various wedding shows on television can’t possibly help either. Even I become a bit starry-eyed watching shows like “My Fair Wedding” and “Platinum Weddings.”

But there is that saying “if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.”

These women seem to be the result of a combination of the “me generation” and the “microwave syndrome” believing the world revolves around them and seeing instant gratification as a way of life. Can’t wait on your engagement, why not just plan your wedding in the meantime, right?

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Face vs. Figure

A beautiful figure may grab some men’s attention before a beautiful face. Perhaps cleavage catches their eyes or a view from behind that captivates them. But, would a “bangin” body matter if a woman had Quasimodo‘s face? There is something about striking facial features that may keep a man’s attention for the long-term. The New York Times recently mentioned that men value a woman’s facial beauty more than body when looking for a long-term relationship. Those looking for short-term relationships maybe more inclined to forgive an average, although not completely heinous, face for sexy curves.

[Translation:

Just looking for a roll in the sack-Body

Looking for a girlfriend- Face]

I have come to adore all 5’2” of my petite frame, but I don’t have outrageous curves. Still, there is something about me that garners attention  from men. Perhaps I have the Lolita appeal since I look much younger than my actual age on most occasions.

But, there are times when I am slightly envious of the women with in-your-face body! They can wear anything and make it look sexy. Then there is another group that seem to have the best of  both worlds with exceptional bodies and stunning faces. Some examples are:

Scarlett Johansson

Naomi Campbell

Jessica Simpson

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Yet there is no perfect woman, face, or body. Even these women have likely struggled with self-esteem issues at some time in their lives. My advice is to love what you are blessed with and someone else will love it too. Hey, even if you don’t have DDs or a Beyonce butt, someone out there will love what you have. But the first person that should is you. Research actually shows that you don’t even need these attributes for a long-lasting relationship. Certain men like certain body types. Even though Giselle Bundchen is a Victoria’s Secret model, she has a body that may be too tall and thin for many people’s taste.

Celebrate yourself and whatever you think makes you beautiful. Dress up your face with a smile and walk with confidence and good posture. Have a great weekend everyone and I’d love to read your thoughts!

For Colored Girls

Last night I saw “For Colored Girls,”  Tyler Perry‘s adaptation of  Ntozake Shange‘s book For Colored Girls Who Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf. The theater was extremely crowded since it was opening night and there were even Nielsen surveys to fill out about the film. It made going to see the film seem like an “event,”  but it was a but much. I have to mention that I have not yet read the poems, but I give the movie an overall grade of a B. I enjoyed all the characters  but the acting was often melodramatic. Still, I applaud Tyler Perry for taking on this challenge and offering a space for so many talented black actresses to showcase their talent. I saw the movie with my sister and I recommend seeing it with your female friends or relatives. Here’s a bit about the film and characters:

CrystalKimberly Elise:

Kimberly Elise is a highly underrated actress and pours her heart into roles. In this film she grapples with domestic violence. Her acting gets a B+ and her crying scenes are intense and believable.

Tangie– Thandie Newton:

Tangie is a tramp with a bad attitude in the film. Yet despite her rough demeanor, she shows vulnerability and her character has a past that offers some explanation for her lewd behavior. Newton does an excellent job of portraying Tangie as a multilayered character.

For Colored Girls

Nyla– Tessa Thonpson:

Thompson is the youngest leading lady and I was surprised at how well she performed. She plays a young dancer who is confused about how to handle a common teen problem. Unfortunately, she does not have many women to turn to for help. Her poetry recitations are executed nicely and I think this actress will get a lot more work in the coming months.

AliceWhoopi Goldberg:

Alice is a strange character. Whoopi Goldberg plays a religious fanatic who has dysfunctional relationships with her daughters Tangie (Newton) and Nyla (Thomas). Her character comes off as a bit comical rather than serious in many scenes. But I’m glad Alice was included in the roster. Like her, many people may turn to religion as a means of redemption/escape and become obsessive in the process.

JuanitaLoretta Devine:

Juanita was the most entertaining character to watch. Some people may be put off by Loretta Devine’s sugary sweet “down-home” accent, but I think it’s great. It’s her trademark and it serves her well in this movie. Her monologues are crowd pleasers and her acting outshines many other characters. Juanita’s dilemma is an unfaithful boyfriend.

KellyKerry Washington:

Kelly is a case worker for child services and is initially connected to Kimberly Elise’s character Crystal. Kerry Washington is a talented actress but she only does an okay job in this movie in my opinion. Unfortunately, she is not as compelling as some of the other actresses.

For Colored Girls

JoJanet Jackson:

Janet Jackson’s acting in general is mediocre but in this movie she does a pretty good job. Jo’s character was added for the film and was not in the book. She is an editor-in-chief of a magazine who is anal and cold to her employees and husband. We learn that her marriage may be the cause for her cold temperament. Jo is also definitely the most fashionable of all the characters. She wears some killer heals and outfits in the film.

YasmineAnika Noni Rose:

Yasmine is Nyla’s (Thompson) dance teacher and is bubbly and artistic. This character seems the most happy of all the women in the beginning of the movie. She epitomizes a ray of sunlight and represents the color yellow.  In the film her light is slightly dulled after a traumatic incident.

GildaPhylicia Rashad:

Gilda is one of my favorite characters. She is Crystal (Elise) and Tangie’s (Newton) nosey neighbor, but instead of being a stereotypical annoying neighbor, Gilda is the voice of reason in the film and a mentor to the younger women in the apartment building. Her poetry recitations, like Thompson’s, are compelling and add to the movie’s depth.

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