Milking Moms

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Breastfeading and odd parenting  practices are some of the latest media obsessions. A few months ago we saw footage of former “Clueless” star Alicia Silverstone  oddly feeding  her son and just weeks ago Beyonce’s public breastfeeding display turned up a few eyebrows. (But the incident made many others love the new mom even more, giving her the Mother of The Year crown on top of People’s recent “World’s Most Beautiful” title.)

The latest strange news item is Time’s newest cover showing 26-year-old mom Jamie Lynn Grumet simulating breastfeeding to her three-year-old son. Grumet is a model but she’s shown on the cover with her biological son. “It gives my children a strong bond,” she told the “Today”  show.

The cover  is getting the attention the publication hoped for and promotes an article about extended breastfeeding, a term coined by 72-year-old pediatrician and author Dr. Bill Sears who states that extending breastfeeding is healthy and promotes happy children. But the cover also brings to light the whispers and shocked looks that many give seemingly tactless moms who breastfeed boldly in public spaces. 

Breastfeeding is practical in that it  fulfills basic survival needs but there’s also a certain level of intimacy between mother and child. Unless necessary to breastfeed in public I believe these moments should be somewhat private. There’s no need to go into hiding but this can be done at home or at least tastefully.

The “Today” show polled 122,000 people and of the “people who were asked what they thought of the cover, 27 percent said it was great but 73 percent they really did want to see it,” according to Reuters.

And how old is too old to continue treating your child like a baby?  Too often I see children well over age 4 in strollers. Come on moms! 

 Earlier this week I even saw a mother on the subway cradling her adolescent son in her lap as if he were a newborn. The boy looked extremely tired but there was an empty seat adjacent to her. He could have sat upright in the seat and dozed off like many New Yorkers older and younger than him.

I’m not a mother and maybe in the future I’ll be cradling my ten-year-old in my lap too but now it just seems like you’re training your child to be a bit needy, spoiled and I’ll dare to say a “momma’s boy (girl).”